I See You.
I first came across that greeting while reading a novel set in colonial southern Africa. It immediately resonated deeply with me – its simple elegance, and the profound connection it instantly creates between two people. I see you. It is the most beautiful acknowledgement of a fellow human being’s existence and value as such on this earth.
Not, ‘hey, how’s it going?’ or ‘whassup’ or ‘how do you do’. It’s not a request for information, it’s not a mere formality when meeting someone. These three words acknowledge, focus attention, hold the person receiving the greeting. I see you. You exist. You are precious. I do not judge you. If you are ill, sad, happy, on top of the world – it doesn’t matter, I see you, just as you are, and that’s just perfect.
I recently had the great pleasure of working with a coach/Leader from South Africa, and, two decades after first reading it, there was that wondrous greeting again, breathed into life in that joyful, profound manner of South Africans – I See You. The words hit me squarely in the chest and stomach, sending butterflies swirling and warmth radiating through me.
How often do we walk through our lives not seeing the world around us? Not making eye contact. Ignoring the “strangers” around us. Can you imagine the impact if we greeted each other with “I see you”? If we took time to really, authentically connect with and “see” each other. We’re so distracted when we meet with friends and colleagues, so many things compete for our attention. We meet for dinner and we’re eating and drinking while chatting. How often do we really make eye contact? Give the person we’re with our full and undivided attention? The energy and connection created between people is tangible when you achieve that level of softly focused attention with each other.
As a human being, I see you. As your coach, I see you. I hold that truth during our coaching work together, in service of you. During our sessions I will see you, even when you lose sight of yourself; I will hold your agenda and keep you on track, even when you’re ready to turn and run; I will challenge and stretch you to your full potential; I will ask you powerful questions to help you explore, become aware and find clarity.
I See You. Curious to see yourself? To dig deep and live the possibilities in your present and your future? Ready? Then come fly with me!